What would happen if you really embraced and harnessed the power that comes with going through a transition such as ours? Transgender coaching is all about embracing the gift of transition. After all, we become beacons of change, inspiring people around us to stand tall and with resilience.
Personally, I rounded my transition cape in the early days of Summer 2013. Ever since I am determined to step up and share the wisdom and power that came along.
What is Transgender Coaching?
Transgender coaching is tailored to transgender and genderfluid people. The starting point is the insight that we are all born perfect. In our path to adulthood we were tailored to be a great many things, except our own authentic selves. From the perspective that we are all naturally creative, resourceful and whole, together (you and I) tackle your limiting believes and bring you back to your perfect, authentic self, ready to take on the world in a larger, wider, more encompassing sense then what you ever imagined possible.
As a trans woman, I realised, post-transition that the process could have gone so much smoother and insightful when I would have been held by a professional life coach who understood what transition is all about.
When going trough transition we usually can rely on all kinds of medical support in the forms of doctors, voice and psychological therapists, etc. In short, people taking care of your physical and mental health. The question is, how much time do you spend preparing for what is coming after transition? Have you considered your future life and how it will present itself?
It takes one to support one!
My biggest insight came when, around the time of my surgery, I discovered that the place where I really felt a sense of homecoming, safety, quiet, peace,… was with my brothers and sisters. It surprised me and caught me off-guard. I had shun away from our sister- and brotherhood and yet, it was the place to come home to.
As a transgender coach, I stand by you. I am at your side when things are tough to enable you to get on your feet again as I wil be at your side to celebrate your successes. And, trust me, there is plenty of stuff to celebrate along the way. Not only am I by your side, I will keep your eye on the future, on your life beyond transition. We will be working on how to deal with relationships (the present and the future ones), with your career, the integration of your family, settling in your body (including dealing with sex), friendships… we’ll make the grand tour of life together and get you ready for the joy of life that is to come.
What to expect from Transgender Coaching?
- This is not therapy. I don’t provide nor search for answers and don’t meddle with the past. As a transgender coach with a trans”her”story, I care about what is happening with you now. My focus is on what is your reality and what opportunities to grow it brings you. It is all about shaping your future.
- I will challenge you. My care for you is to the point that I only want the best for you. I want you to be all you can be and want to be.
- I love playing, getting creative and go silly. Expect me to go crazy, challenge you to extend your range and make you grow.
- Having said that, you grow in a safe space for you. A container to experiment, to feel what it could be. I create an environment that will honour your authentic self. We are perfect the way we are, I do believe that: firmly and adamantly. As a coach, I know that you have the key to all the answers you need. And I know that I can help you turn that key to unlock your own magnificence.
How does it work?
I work mainly online. In Person only works when you’re residing in and around Belgium and have a space where we can work in. Otherwise I use Zoom, a platform which tends to be more stable than Skype and doesn’t require installing software or signing up to anything. It’s convenient, inexpensive and does the trick.
We start we designing what we want from our relationship, set a target and a trajectory. There are number of options to work together. Find out more below.
I work mainly in English (EN) and Dutch (NL), but can also venture in French (FR) and Italian (IT). I’m fluent in all 4 languages, I just never got round to coaching in FR and IT. But… why not bring that as a challenge to me?
Are you living near Brussels? Find out more about the workshops I organise for our community. Feel free to join us on Facebook, Meetup or in real life!